10 dirty talking dos and donts
After learning how to sext, I started to think more about the role of words in the bedroom. So, I talked to three experts about how to talk dirty, including details on ways to heighten everyone’s pleasure. Whether you’re a dirty talker from way back or you’re curious to start exploring the intersection of filthy and fun language in the boudoir, read on. A lot of the time, when people think of “dirty talk,” they think of the sort of graphic and vulgar dialogue used in porn. But, as The Idol so skin-crawlingly illustrates, busting out these kinds of lines without warning can be at best intimidating and at worst degrading (and not in a sexy way). Your partner is having sex with you—borrowing phrases from some stranger on the internet can feel impersonal or affected, or even, let’s face it, cringey for both parties.
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- These are phrases you can use when you want to remind him of you when you are apart, such as over an email or text.
- If you expect you may start hooking up soon, try asking the person you’re seeing how they feel about talking dirty in bed.
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- You can start off by trying a few slightly dirty things and then work your way up to your preferred amount of filth.
- In her free time, Gabrielle can be found coaching CrossFit, reviewing pleasure products, hiking with her border collie, or recording episodes of the podcast she co-hosts called Bad In Bed.
- “Mutualistic dirty talk is sexy because it’s a positive bid to connect with your partner.
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Dr. Jansen says it’s best to wait until after sex—“maybe on a walk or hanging out on the couch, not during the sexual moment”—to approach your partner with feedback or check in. That check-in could include what you loved and what was really good as well as any corrections or minor adjustments if you have them. Another option is practicing dirty talk solo—to yourself or an imagined lover, even—while you’re masturbating. “Basically you want to negotiate dirty talk ahead of time just like you’d negotiate any other sex,” she says. Discuss what the dirty talk will entail to make sure it’s within everyone’s established boundaries and desires, explains Harris.
Introduce the idea to your partner.
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However, if sexting sounds potentially exciting for you as a couple, then go ahead and try it! Again, the Just Between Us app can be a great resource for couples who want to start sexting but are nervous about where their photos might end up. The JBU app allows you to have a secure gallery of photos and videos that only you and your spouse will ever see. You can use this avenue to explore sexual acts you may never feel comfortable performing and talk through the pleasures and sensations of your sexy stories.
Combine the below sexting examples to craft the sexiest virtual sex convo you or your partner(s) have ever had. The start of a conversation is also a good time to exchange any no-fly trigger words. Imagine saying, “I want to stimulate your mammary glands with my oral cavity.” It’s accurate—but far from sexy. Instead, try something like, “I want to lick your nipples until you’re leaking precum.” Using anatomical terms for body parts might work for…doctors, but cold, clinical language often undercuts the passion of the moment. Imagine two guys getting hot and heavy, and one suddenly blurts out, “Can you feel my Kenergy?” in a thick deep bro-ccent.
Just go slow, but prepared to build some serious sexual heat in using them. Orgasms that rock his world and yours are just an arm’s length away when you use these nasty, naughty phrases to entice his visual and emotional appetite. Yeah, we don’t know either, but for those of us who struggle with dirty talk, the scene is a little too relatable.
If you’ve never talked dirty before, don’t worry! Here are some of the benefits of talking dirty as well as sex therapist-approved tips for how to get started. What to say during sex and what to do during sex both have a lot to do with your partner and what they’re into. Remember that the same “lines” don’t work on everyone. For example, calling your last partner “Daddy” might have made him instantly hard, but your new beau might think of it as boner kryptonite.
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